Hello there! As a relationship coach, I’m here to help you improve the health of your relationship by pointing out some common mistakes you might be making. Don’t worry, I won’t judge – we’ve all been there. Let’s dive in!
Mistake #1: Not Listening
Yes, I know it’s hard to listen to your partner when they’re going on and on about their day, but trust me, it’s important. Your partner wants to feel heard and understood (don’t you too?!), and if you’re not listening, you’re missing out on an opportunity to connect with them and deepen your bond and intimacy. So next time your partner starts talking, put down your phone, look them in the eye, and really listen. Who knows, you might actually learn something new about them.
Mistake #2: Ignoring Red Flags
We’ve all had that gut feeling that something isn’t quite right in our relationship, but we choose to ignore it because we don’t want to rock the boat and have that ‘difficult’ conversation. Well, I’m here to tell you that ignoring red flags is a mistake. If something doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t. It’s better to address the issue sooner rather than later, before it becomes a bigger problem. Trust your instincts and talk to your partner about what’s bothering you.
Mistake #3: Taking Your Partner for Granted
When you’ve been with someone for a while, it’s easy to take them for granted. You assume they’ll always be there, and maybe you don’t make the effort to show them how much you appreciate them. But here’s the thing – everyone wants to feel valued and appreciated, especially in a relationship. Take a moment to thank your partner for all the things they do for you (big and little). Make sure to be specific and let them know the impact of what that did on you. It could be as simple as saying, “Thank you for making me dinner, it was delicious and really satisfying.”
Mistake #4: Being Too Critical
No one likes to be criticized, especially by their partner. But it’s easy to slip into a pattern of being overly critical when you’re in a long-term relationship and falling into that dangerous habit of always scanning for the negative. Maybe your partner left the dishes in the sink again, or they forgot to take out the trash. Instead of criticizing them, try to approach the situation with kindness and understanding. You could say something like, “Hey, I noticed the dishes are in the sink. Can you please wash them when you have a chance?” It’s a small change, but it can make a big difference in how your partner feels and responds to you.
Mistake #5: Not Making Time for Each Other
Life is busy (that’s one of my least favorite 4-letter words) , but if you’re not making time for each other, your relationship is going to suffer. It’s important to prioritize your relationship and make time for each other, whether that’s a date night once a week, a weekend getaway, or some swing time on the front porch. It doesn’t have to be anything fancy, just something that allows you to connect with each other and remind one another what you love about them.
Ok, there you have it, five common mistakes you might be making in your relationship. Don’t worry, it’s never too late to make a change! As a relationship coach, I’m here to help you improve the health of your relationship and create a stronger, more fulfilling connection with your partner. So let’s work together to create the most meaningful and rewardding relationships that last a lifetime.
Until next time. Remember, happily ever after doesn’t just happen, it’s on purpose.