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Let’s face it, technology has revolutionized our lives, and love and relationships are no exception. With the rise of online dating apps and social media platforms, finding and maintaining romantic relationships has become easier, but it also comes with a whole new set of challenges.

Alright, let’s kick things off with the positives. Online dating apps like Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge have made it possible to meet new people without even leaving our homes. By swiping through profiles and engaging in conversation, we can quickly narrow down our options and find potential partners that meet our preferences. It’s like having a virtual wingman or wingwoman!

But like everything else in life, there’s a downside. With the abundance of options, it’s easy to get caught up in a “grass is always greener” mentality. If someone doesn’t meet all our criteria, or we encounter a small disagreement, we may quickly move on to the next person. It’s like we’re treating relationships like disposable items and that’s a dangerous insensitivity we don’t want to add as a recurring part of our relationship make up.

Now, let’s talk about social media. Platforms like Instagram and Facebook have made it easier for couples to stay connected, even if they’re physically apart. We can share our daily lives through posts and messages, creating a sense of closeness. It’s like our partner is always with us, even if they’re miles away.

But social media can also create new challenges for couples. The constant exposure to other people’s lives can make us feel inadequate or jealous, leading to unnecessary arguments or even breakups. Comparison is a deadly activity that always compares the ’haves’ to the ‘have-nots’- especially when we feel we are lacking or less-than someone else.  The best internal gauge we can have and feed is ‘ How am i doing to my previous self? Am I progressing and exceeding my own limits and past results,or am I remaining stagnant and focused on past failures? And let’s not forget the temptation to communicate with past partners or engage in inappropriate behavior. It’s like social media encourages us to play on the playground of  relationship drama.

Finally, let’s talk about communication. Technology has made it possible for us to stay in touch with our partners throughout the day, regardless of our location. We can text, call, or even video chat, creating a sense of intimacy and closeness.

But the downside is that over-reliance on technology can have negative consequences. We may develop a lack of communication skills in face-to-face interactions-which are truthfully the life-blood of connection and deep, meaningful secure attachment. An inappropriate use of social media blurs authentic connection and can lead to misunderstandings or difficulties in resolving conflicts. Let’s be real, the constant need to be connected can create a sense of anxiety or obligation to respond immediately, putting undue pressure on the relationship.

Technology has changed the game when it comes to love and relationships. It’s made it easier to find and maintain romantic relationships, but it’s also brought about new challenges. We need to be mindful of the impact technology has on our relationships and find a healthy balance between convenience and healthy relationship habits that encourage longevity in our most meaningful human relationship. So, keep swiping, keep posting, but don’t forget to unplug and enjoy some quality time with your partner.

Until next time. Remember, happily ever after doesn’t just happen. It’s on purpose.