On the latest episode of the Kickass Couples Podcast, co-hosts Matthew and Kimberly Hoffman welcomed Lesley Logan and Brad Crowell, a couple who had recently moved to Las Vegas. Lesley and Brad discussed what made their relationship unique and “Kickass”. They shared that they had learned to work together and support each other’s independence, which has been key to their successful relationship. Lesley also highlighted that when they first met, she didn’t need Brad for anything, which allowed them to just be friends. This helped them to develop a strong foundation of trust and intimacy. Brad also noted that their ability to have fun and laugh together has been a major contributor to their relationship’s success.
During the podcast, the couple shared a funny backstory about Lesley breaking her leg and Brad moving in to help her. This experience helped them to understand the importance of being there for each other during difficult times. The couple emphasized that it’s important not to take each other for granted and to always show gratitude for the small things in life.
Matthew and Kimberly Hoffman also discussed the couple’s childhood experiences with love and how it has affected their current relationship. Brad grew up in a family where his parents were very connected and affectionate towards each other, and he had a traditional understanding of love. However, his previous marriage was messy, contemptuous and full of petty arguments which made him re-evaluate his expectations and beliefs about love. Lesley grew up in a family where her parents fought often, but were also open with their feelings and affection. He even remembers her and her siblings being kicked out of the house so they could have sex. Both Lesley and Brad had different perspectives on love but they have learned to adapt and understand each other’s perspective to make their relationship based on mutual respect and acceptance of different perspectives.
Brad & Lesley also discussed the importance of communication in relationships and how it can look differently for different couples. Lesley shared that she and her partner Brad had different communication styles and to mitigate this, they had separated their work and personal communications. They used a project management tool for work-related discussions and tried to keep text messages for personal and family conversations. Brad added that in his past career, he was constantly bombarded with work-related texts and it caused a lot of unnecessary stress. By separating their communications, they were able to spend more quality time together. Lesley also mentioned that they continue to surprise each other with unexpected messages of love throughout the day. Brad and Lesley shared how this separating of their work and personal communication has helped to build the levels of trust and intimacy in their relationship.This concept of separating work and personal communications is an interesting idea that may be beneficial for other couples who work together.
They also discussed the importance of setting clear expectations in relationships. Matthew emphasized the importance of honesty and not relying on hope, but having specific goals and dreams in a relationship. They also discussed the importance of being open and honest with your partner about your expectations to avoid conflict and wasted time. They continued to emphasize that it’s important to have regular check-ins to ensure that both partners are on the same page and that any issues are addressed in a timely manner.
By listening to this podcast episode, couples could gain a fresh take on the importance of communication, setting clear expectations and supporting each other’s independence. They could also learn how to navigate challenges and to build a strong foundation of trust and intimacy in their relationship.
Until next time. Remember, happily ever after doesn’t just happen. It’s on purpose.