Love Isn't Perfect
…although when you first start out in a relationship, it usually feels that way.
But add a growing family, changing careers, and community and social commitments to the mix and before long, most couples fade from that flow state of being to a more mundane, mediocre, or even miserable status quo.
And even though you want to rebuild a strong relationship
✔ You don’t know what steps to take
It all starts with a strong foundation
Humans, like love, are imperfect: We all make mistakes, and that’s okay! The key is embracing those imperfections and courageously yearning for (and learning to create) something better.
With that mindset, you can begin to reforge your relationship by focusing on these 3 cornerstones:
- Conflict Resolution
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By starting with the “3Cs,” you create a solid foundation—which you can then build upon as you explore the other 10 pillars of successful relationships.
We show you how. Take our Kickass Assessment© to see where you’re starting from.
What happens when you invest in your #1 relationship?
By improving your communication and commitment to each other, you’ll experience a closeness you didn’t know was possible, both in the bedroom and out!
Replace habitual tension and unfair fighting with effective conflict resolution, which leads to less relationship stress (and improved overall happiness) for you both.
When your relationship with your partner is supportive, it becomes the unlimited, bottomless fountain that supplies water to all areas of your life.
3 ways to take your relationship from second-class to kick-ass!
What they've said about us
Hear real stories from others who've experienced change.
“What I appreciated was Matthew's authenticity, and ability to share an easy to follow roadmap on becoming a Kick Ass Husband. Gabriela and I have been married for 20 years, and there is no doubt in my mind that Matthew's concepts, and impact on my mindset has helped me improve my marriage dramatically. THANK YOU MATTHEW!”Rob K.
“I am always looking for ways to invest in my relationship with my wife, "Kickass Husband" has been an outstanding tool to help provide practical exercises in our relationship. Taking initiative in our relationship has been a game changer for helping me deposit into my wife’s emotional bank account.”Denny L.
“I absolutely loved Mathews perspective on ‘adopting’ your souse’s parents as your own. This chapter especially resonated with me as my husband and I rely quite heavily on our in-laws to help with our two young children. It’s a great reminder to not only pour into your spouse, but also the ones who helped raise them into the person you fell in love with! This book has been such a great tool for my husband and I to ensure we continue always working towards a thriving marriage!”Amber L.
“Where were you guys 30 years ago?! Matthew is right on point as learning and implementing your spouse’s love language is vital. After 50 years of marriage, it really hits home to learn the ingredients we can put into practice today to recapture those earlier years of Thriving”Frank S.
“Kickass Husband reminded me of the importance of showing love and respect to my husband through everyday actions. The simple act of “Paying Attention” to words and needs as suggested by the book, has created a lovely reset of the awareness that is needed to have a joyful marriage.”Gina W.
“Matthew’s love mapping teaches couples to take a deep dive into reconnecting and building communication styles that are proven to be effective, fun and inspiring! The methods shared in Kickass Husband have helped me build a more engaging relationship with my husband which has ignited more luster, excitement and sex back into my marriage.”Raisa M.
Change Starts with Awareness
You know your relationship could use an upgrade, but where to start?
First, you have to honestly assess where you stand. For that, we’ve created the Kickass Quotient. It’s an assessment on the 13 relationship pillars (including the 3Cs, of course) that shows you your strengths, as well as where there’s room for improvement.
Take the first step to strengthening your relationship and find out your own Kickass Quotient today.
Matthew P. Hoffman is a national speaker and author of Kickass Husband: Winning at Life, Marriage & Sex.
As the founder and co-developer of the Kickass Quotient, the Kickass Couples Podcast, and his live event series, he thrives on teaching spouses how to develop their #1 relationship.
His wife, Kimberly, is the first to vouch that he is, indeed, a kickass husband who leads men from selfishness and unfulfillment to satisfaction and love in their marriages.