Today are diving into one of our key relationship pillars: Intimacy.
We’re really excited to talk about intimacy because we feel like the more we learn about intimacy, the more it improves our own relationship. It’s almost like peeling back layers of an onion because there are a lot of different layers to intimacy.
Here’s a quote from Anne Zandt about intimacy:
“In my mind, marriage is a spiritual partnership and union in which we willingly give and receive love, create and share intimacy and open ourselves to be available and accessible to another human being in order to heal, learn and grow.”
We feel that intimacy is about making ourselves accessible to other human beings. There are five types of intimacy:
- Spiritual Intimacy
- Experiential Intimacy
- Emotional Intimacy
- Physical Intimacy
- Intellectual Intimacy
There are other people out there who would add more to that list. We would call these 5 the “muscle” group. We think of these different groups just like the muscles in your body, you’ve got to work ALL your muscle groups. If you just work on one, you’ll be imbalanced and out of whack. It won’t make for a great relationship.
Both men and women need all five types of intimacy to feel truly connected to their partners. But each person has their own unique way of expressing themselves and needs different things from their partner in order to feel close. The key is to communicate with each other and figure out what works best for both of you.
Creating intimacy in a relationship takes time, patience, and effort. But it’s so worth it when you finally feel that deep connection with your partner. Intimacy is what makes a relationship truly special and meaningful.
Until next time. Remember, happily ever after doesn’t just happen. It’s on purpose.